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In general, feelings are not being clearly expressed when the word feel is followed by: Words such as that, like, as if: "I feel that you should know better." "I feel like a failure." "I feel as if I'm living with a wall." The pronouns I, you, he, she, they, it: "I feel I am constantly on call." "I feel it is useless." Names or nouns referring to people: "I feel Amy has been pretty responsible." "I feel my boss is being manipulative." Distinguish feelings from thoughts.

In NVC, we distinguish between words that express actual feelings and those that describe what we think we are.

A common confusion, generated by the English language, is our use of the word feel without actually expressing a feeling. For example, in the sentence, "I feel I didn't get a fair deal," the words I feel could be more accurately replaced with I think.