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And if the standards of the culture were wrong then, I realized, they can be wrong now. You can have everything a person could possibly need by the standards of our culture--but those standards can badly misjudge what a human actually needs in order to have a good or even a tolerable life. The culture can create a picture of what you "need" to be happy--through all the junk values I had been taught about--that doesn't fit with what you actually need.