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If you don't make decisions about how you're going to live, then you've already made a decision, haven't you? You're making a decision to be directed by the environment instead of shaping your own destiny.

Limited references create a limited life. If you want to expand your life, you must expand your references by pursuing ideas and experiences that wouldn't be a part of your life if you didn't consciously seek them out.

One decision that has made a tremendous difference in the quality of my life is that at an early age I began to link incredible pleasure to learning. I realized that discovering ideas and strategies that could help me to shape human behavior and emotion could give me virtually everything I wanted in my life.

How do you know what beliefs to adopt? The answer is to find someone who's producing the results you truly want in your life. These people are the role models who can give you some of the answers you seek. Invariably, behind all successful people lies a specific set of empowering beliefs.

This is the essence of Transformational Vocabulary: the words that we attach to our experience become our experience.

If you don't know the values and rules of the people with whom you share a relationship, you should prepare for pain.

It's so important to communicate your rules for any situation in life, whether it's love, friendship, or business.

Using social proof is a great way to limit your life--to make it just like everybody else's.

People with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multi-hued palette of colors with which to paint their experience, not only for others, but for themselves as well.

are. If you want to help somebody, you won't access this kind of leverage by making them wrong or pointing out that they're inconsistent, but rather by asking them questions that cause them to realize for themselves their inconsistencies.

As I've said so many times, knowing what to do is not enough: you must do what you know.

The most important rules that I ever adopted to help me in achieving my goals were those I learned from a very successful man who taught me to first write down the goal, and then to never leave the site of setting a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment.

Simply by changing your habitual vocabulary--the words you consistently use to describe the emotions of your life--you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live.

never to leave the scene of a decision without first taking a specific action toward its realization.

Most important, don't sweat the small stuff... and remember, it's all small stuff!

Everything that happens in your life--both what you're thrilled with and what you're challenged by--began with a decision. I believe that it's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.

The first belief we must have if we're going to create change quickly is that we can change now.

The more specific you can be about what you want, the more clarity you will have, and the more power you will command to achieve what you want more rapidly.

Come up with tons of ways to satisfy your rules for feeling love; make it incredibly easy to experience that pleasure, and make sure to include plenty of criteria that are under your sole control, so you don't have to depend on anyone or anything else to feel good.