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This is because the feeling associated with giving up something loved - or at least something that is a part of ourselves and familiar - is depression. Since mentally healthy human beings must grow, and since giving up or loss of the old self is an integral part of the process of mental and spiritual growth, depression is a normal and basically healthy phenomenon.

"LOVE THE PAIN" isn't about self-flagellation. It's a simple reminder that nearly all growth requires discomfort. Sometimes the discomfort is mild, like an uphill bike ride or swallowing your ego to listen more attentively. Other times, it's far more painful, like lactic-threshold training or the emotional equivalent of having a bone reset. None of these stressors are lethal, and it's the rare person who pursues them. The benefits or lack thereof depend on how you talk to yourself.